Trolls Do Exist. They Live Beneath Black Women IR Bridges.
It boggles my mind how some Black men find it necessary to call into my online radio show in an attempt to divert my listeners and me from the topic at hand. I try to be fair and conciliatory; but there comes a time when I must shut them down. Below is an excerpt from an email sent to one of my dear friends, Christelyn Russell-Karazin:
The bottom line of why the WHOLESALING of black women hopping the fence or the type of PROMOTION that many black female authors, most of which who are married to white men, isn’t going to work is because MOST WHITE MEN SEEK TO PRESERVE THE WHITE POWER STRUCTURE WHICH IS CONTINGENT ON THEM PRODUCING WHITE BABIES.
The problem with his statement, “MOST WHITE MEN SEEK TO PRESERVE THE WHITE POWER STRUCTURE WHICH IS CONTINGENT ON THEM PRODUCING WHITE BABIES” is irrelevant to Black women in interracial relationships. We don’t care about MOST. We care about those who want to be with us. Believe me. They are out there in abundance.
On my radio show, I discuss various topics that include interracial relationships. I have had this same dude call in and try to ‘teach’ me a lesson about Black women not being the apple of a White man’s eye. For some reason he has gotten the idea that my show is only about promoting relationships between Black women and White men. That’s far from the truth. I encourage Black women to be in relationships that are caring, loving, and worth their time. Most often, many Black women are steered toward having relationships with Black men even when the Black man is a DBR (Deadbeat Beyond Repair). There are DBRs in all ethnic groups of men. Being with any DBR just isn’t acceptable.
Additionally, neither my fellow BWE cohorts nor me steer Black women toward interracial relationships strictly with White men. We encourage Black women to have quality relationships with Asian, Native American, Latino/Hispanic, and other rainbeau men. If the man is quality, then he is worth being in a relationship with. This also includes Black men who meet these criteria.
I refuse to buy into this person’s nonsense of why White men do not prefer any other woman other than a White woman. Here’s more of his diatribe:
For white men who CONTROL EVERYTHING – the very idea of being cut off which keep many of the most “black female lusting white men” at bay. These are the types who will SLEEP with black women, EVEN CHEAT ON THEIR WHITE WIVES, but won’t marry them. There is too much to lose by NOT KEEPING IT WHITE.
It’s amazing how this cretin knows the heart of every White man on earth. So many Black women who are married interracially have borne children to their White husbands. If the aforementioned philosophy is absolute, where is his proof? Where is his research to quantify this to be absolute?
The problem that black women have in these interracial arguments is that they place “LOVE” above “LEGACIES.” Its not just white men either. Its all races of men who come from INTACT communities. The black community is BROKEN and the black community is MATRIARCHAL. Men don’t build in a matriarchal community. There is no motivation for them to do so. Men are reduced to sperm donor. Men are not going to build what they do not control and due to the fact that black women have grown up in a community devoid of male leadership for so long MOST truly believe that WOMEN are supposed to run things. When you see black men with other races of women black women should look at it as “a good black man who left the race” they should look at it as a “patriarch” left the race.
Now, I get it. It’s the Black woman’s fault that many Black men in Blackistan do not adore, care, love, and protect their women and children. I know many Black men who take care of their families without excuses. This type of Black men makes me sick to my stomach. He wants to blame Black women for his lack of personal accountability and responsibility. He wants to blame White men for being a coward and abuser within Blackistan. I’m not buying it!
Ultimately a matriarchy is the result of weak male leadership. If we go back far enough – black men losing those manufacturing jobs with a host of other contributions destroyed the black family. A man can only be A MAN, and the head, when he is in a position to do so and that POSITION IS MONEY.
So, let me get this right. The reason many Black men walk out on their families is because they lost their manufacturing jobs? The only type of person who comes up with this nonsensical gibberish is an IDIOT! This is the weakest excuse I have read so far. Instead of killing the excuses, this dude continues to make a circular argument with himself.
A white man (who is a builder) TYPICALLY CARES where he puts his seed because he benefits from being apart of that white power structure. This applies to any man who is a builder. If the black man is a builder the same rule applies HOWEVER, with so many black women believing that they are supposed to run shit – it doesn’t leave much room for a black to find a cooperative woman who’s just down with his HEADING HIS HOUSEHOLD – even that has become a problem.
Again, it’s the Black woman’s fault that these types of Black men become under- or non-achievers. I don’t think so! For those mammy pack-mules who buy into this nonsense, YOU CAN HAVE HIM AND THE REST OF HIS LOT. Save these weak arguments for Blackistanis. The proof is in the proverbial pudding. The Black community has digressed into Blackistan. Without accountability, responsibility, and respect, Blackistan will continue to implode. These type of Black men who make excuses for not being a man will always play the blame-game. However, many Black women will not participate. We have better things to do like be with quality men who want to be quality fathers whose greatest joy is to provide quality lives for their families.
When this email was posted in a group forum, several Black women have much to say. Below are a few comments and responses:
E.H.: Many BM desire complete and utter control, and frame it as submission, in their relationships because they have no control in other aspects of their lives—he just revealed that among many other things.
He just confirmed a whole host of things. He basically admitted that: BM are failures; BM do not take responsibility for their community and are not building legacies; colorism does exist (BTW, who’s reinforcing the one drop rule nowadays? Also see the Lolo Jones/Dawn Harper fiasco); BW and WM do have more in common (also see the gun article); the black community is pretty much a failure- null and void; BM do not value BW or their “seed” for that matter; and much much more. He thinks he’s “putting BW in their place” but really he’s just telling on himself and other resentful BM like him.
In his entire nonsensical rant he didn’t offer BW any solutions to what he presumed to be plaguing the “community.”
Providing no solution is usually their mode of operation. Blame everyone else for the problems of Blackistan instead of those who perpetuate fatherless families. I am not excusing Black women who continue to breed with DBRs. I also know that if a Black man wants to be considered the leader of his home, he has to be brave enough to stay in the home. Nothing should tear his family apart. NOTHING!
T.D.: I was listening and wondering, “Why is he making this about BM & BW?” I was so relieved when Queenof Thepen stopped this long-winded man. The show WAS NOT about any of the things he listed in his soul-baring email. The show was about SNOWFLAKES, and he took this opportunity to push his own “why BM & BW don’t get along/why very few BW will be able to get a WM” agenda. His own email is very much in line with the thoughts of the snowflake- some can do it, but when it looks like someone else may want to try it, they present all the reasons why it wouldn’t work. The caller may not have been a swirler, but he is pushing all of the sentiments of the snowflake/iron snowflake set.
. . . . And when they are confronted with their hypocrisy, they blame BW and our alleged flaws for their decision to date WW. Notice how when many BW that date IR name the reasons for dating WM, the descriptor s tend to describe that particular WM-the individual-that they are dating. Words like “he was funny, we could talk for hours, we liked the same things” are usually used when describing a BW’s non-Black partner. When BM describe why they date WW, it turns into an argument against BW. It usually starts with how many BW mistreated him, used him, ignored him, etc. So much of the context for dating WW is rooted in a dislike of BW. That’s why it’s refreshing to talk to ladies like the ones in this group.
Again, it’s call diverting attention away from the real issues: A LACK OF REAL MALE LEADERSHIP WITHIN THE BLACK COMMUNITY. Instead of being honest about their intentions, these type of Black men want to remain little boys suckling at their Black mothers’ breasts. When they are confronted with their backward excuses, they lash out at Black women who have decided they deserved so much better.
L.S.: I am not against bm calling in, but most of the time it is to trollor hijack. On Clarissa’s first show the first 3 callers were bm spewing poison. I am ready for round two when Queenof Thepen can be ready for those technical difficulties. But I will be ready for this fella when he calls in too. He wanted to defend the Iron Snowflakes, at least that is what I gathered. Smh
And obviously they really don’t know what the real meaning of patriarch is. lol Poor things. Not our job to school them or engage in any way. They are meaningless to us (unless they try to physically harm them). Do they ever think they would get mainstream attention? Karyn Folan tried to interview MLQ for her book “Don’t Bring Home A White Boy” for a legitimate, dissenting point of view. That was his chance to be in the mainstream — a book by a mainstream publisher. He declined. What happened to his big and bad behind? He was a coward then and is still one and will always be one. Hiding behind his blog and a few faithful followers who have the same argument. He is a nasty, vile creature who should be left alone under a rock — a molten rock, preferably inside an active volcano. I’m done.
During the show, I offered him to join me on a show to discuss his points-of-view. That was over two weeks ago; and I have yet to hear from him. These types of Black men are cowards. They like to name-call; but when offered the opportunity to discuss and then provide solutions to the ills of the Black community, all we hear are ‘CRICKETS‘. These piss-ants hide behind a computer screen or unlisted telephone numbers (Yes, I know your number when I see it on my call-in panel. It’s always 111-111-1111.) Funny, huh?
D.U.: I was exhausted after reading it but to sum it up he is obviously one of those “conscious” brothas. Second what amazes me about a lot of these black men is that they can brag about getting shot or surviving da streets, but de almighty angry “controlling” boogeyman aka the black woman sucks all the power out of them right? Whatever! I am aware of the existence of white privilege and supremacy, but this blame for all of the BM failures has got to stop. DE horrible white man is not at fault for their choice to use black women sexually and abandon their offspring.
All I can say to this truth is the first person these type of Black men call when in trouble is their Black mothers. The same Black women whom they have no respect for and will harm quicker than they would a White man. This is the sad truth.
BWDB: Wait a minute…I am trying to get this straight: We should “hop the fence” but shuddup about it…Other Brothers don’t want us…But they marry BW and expect us to be in charge…The White man ain’t interested in uplifing anything, although WM & BW are builders and productive in nature…Black men have nothing to offer and they do not respect women, however there is no sense in hopping the fence because Whitey don’t want us anyhow…
Glad everyone has got a firm grip on sanity!
Yes! A circular argument that continues in the world of NONSENSE! The day this dude begins to make sense is the day he can join me on my radio program to talk about solutions. Until then, ring-around-the-rosy we go!
A.L.: “When you see black men with other races of women black women should look at it as “a good black man who left the race” they should look at it as a “patriarch” left the race.”
Really? Because when my dad cheated on my mom with a white woman and decided to lay up in her trailer and get pampered and paid for while working part time at hooters and paying $23 a month in child support for my younger brother, the last, and I do mean LAST thing we would ever think is a “patriarch just left the race”.
His statement tells me that Black women should be happy to get whatever they can in a Black men even if it means an ex-con, a drug dealer, an abuser, or a womanizer. And, if such a man leaves, then those same Black women should morn. Okay. . .SOMEONE PLEASE TALK ME OFF THE LEDGE!
A.B.: Many of those so-called “conscious” brothas can be the biggest swirlers.
Do as I say and not as I do. But, if you do as I do, then we have a PROBLEM! SOMEONE HAND ME THE DUCT TAPE SO I CAN WRAP MY HEAD BEFORE IT EXPLODES!
Black women who date and marry interracially do not have to explain themselves to anyone. Call us what you will. We have begun to learn to tune such noise out. Our sole purpose is to live and love well. We do not spend a second of our precious time trying to fix the ills of Blackistan. For those who want to waste their time trying to put us in our place, you had better have much patience because we are not going anywhere. We will love whomever we want to love. If you don’t like it, that’s your problem. Find someone who cares. Oh yeah, that’s right. She’s called a Mammy Pack-Mule. The rest of us Black women WILL LEAVE YOU WHERE YOU STAND!
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